Leading people towards Christ in a world that promotes the opposite

I have been praying and reading a lot about leadership lately. As men we are asked to lead many times in our lives. Women also make excellent leaders. Men are asked to be the pastors in the family if they are called to husbands in a relationship. We are also asked to initiate contact and let a woman know if we want to spend time with them and eventually find out if that woman is meant to be our god’s gift.

Also we are asked to be faithful and humble and trustworthy. For when we are single we are also called to be blessedly singles and not violate other people or our own bodies while we are single. Some good indicators for men and women, on whether a man or woman might be a good partner.

1) see how they treat everyone in your life and their life: family, friends, even strangers

2) see if they take the time to pray with you and for others and not just for themselves

3) learn if their communication style is compatible with you and makes you feel at ease, and if you can accept the best and worst of them

4) see if they have a pink circle on their license that shows if they are organ donors, or blood or platelet donors. If they are willing to give up their bodies, and their blood to save others and even strangers…then you know they are willing to sacrifice for you and your family, and possibly future kids

5) and finally as a woman see if this man leads you closer to christ daily…that to me is the primary reason to choose a partner as a woman, and also as a man to see if this woman keeps you faithful and both of you help each other get closer to christ. And is she able to help refocus you towards christ, and pull the load when you are sick, sinful, or injured physically or emotionally. The best situation to me is when a strong leader of men, finds a woman who is a strong leader of women. In this way they are both able to put two strong leaders together for any situation and compliment each other. Women should only submit to a man if he shows that everything he does is motivated by his love for: a) god, b) family, c) career and friends, d) strangers who may become friends, e) enemies , f) and lastly for himself.

I know many people these days judge partners by their property or bank accounts. But its not really about that: look at the old men or old women who get a sexy young partner because of their money. Is that what you want, that is like just being one of their tools or properties gained because they have wealth. Really being good communicators and able to support each other in beliefs and faith and having a common foundation is so much more important to a relationship being vital and growing in the future.

Being and knowing you are a gift to god first. Learn agape to love god above all else and put god, jesus and the holy spirit first in your life is primary. Then to recognize the holy tabernacle of women through Mama Mary, and the holy angels, saints and archangels who can inspire us by their lives and prayers and intercession for our loved ones and ourselves. I have never prayed more to mary than I have in the last 5 years. I knew the haily mary prayer, but I never understood how powerful a prayer partner she can be for a man, especially when in discerning for how to treat women in his life.

Then you must discern what your vocation will be: how will you serve god daily? I often wake up and ask this question of god and myself. What can I do for my lord today? What are my best gifts and how can they best be utilized in ministry or in bringing christ and faith to the people in my life. And to constantly ask the holy spirit to touch myself and bring gifts of the holy spirit to the people I love and those that need the holy spirit to light the candles in our hearts and our prayers.

We can only be and ask for the gifts that we are aware of. God gives us gifts that we do not expect, or are even greater than we ever imagined possible, but we must also ask and work to do what god has put us here for. We each have a mission, a calling, a vocation, talents and gifts to bring to this world. We are the result of the prayers of god, our families and our parents before we ever arrived. We are given names that are endowed with meaning and really help define us and who we might become in the future.

I ask you to look into great authors on relationships if that is what you desire. Some suggestions

jason and krystalina evert the makers of chastity.com, and “if you really loved me”

christopher west and his translation of “theology of the body”

bo sanchez “finding your one true love”

pope john paul II “theology of the body”

proverbs 31

song of songs

st paul — 1 corinthians 13 the excellence of love

read “boy meets girl” on courtship and “kiss dating goodbye” by joshua harris

“marriable” by hayley and michael dimarco is a nice book I picked up the other day

and of course come to serve and not to be served— lead with service

husbands love your wife, as jesus loves the church

“the 5 languages of love” by gary chapman

And just understand that we are all broken and nobody is perfect, but if you are forgiving of others then they will also be forgiving towards you

A friend of mine described 3 personality types to other day and it cracked me up:

top 33% very positive always has kind words always ready to work and motivate others. a glass half full type

a middle 33% easy going, will go with whatever the team wants

bottom 33% the one looking at worst case scenario, pessimistic, always critical of others

we all go through each of these at different times and in different scenarios but we normally are one of these types most of the time. But learn to recognize where you are at a certain time.

So the people around you know you are aware or so you can catch each other on it and help you and your team deal with it. Being honest and real with each other is the best way to strengthen self and a relationship and a family.

And there are always tons of great books on leadership itself

I recommend: anything by john wooden

dr martin luther king jr

profiles in courage about the kennedys

franklin delanor roosevelt

mother teresa of calcutta

st therese of lisieux

san juan diego and our lady of guadalupe

st martin of tours

st mary magdalene

st joakim and st anne: mama mary’s parents

sun tzu “the art of war” as it relates to business is a good one

bruce lee “the tao of jeet kune do”

“listen” the poem

“footsteps” the poem

“paradise lost” poem by eliot

and really just sit down and read the bible yourself each day for like 15 minutes, or even better read it to your loved ones…

and try to go to mass and take the eucharist as often as possible even monday through saturday

to me love, laughter, and eucharist in bread or wine are the best medicine for anything bothering you

and go to the adoration chapel when you are discerning a critical decision for your life..

autumn 2010

wow…still remember heading down to campus with my new bookbag, and notebooks, and school supplies and the first day back from a long summer…

the summer of 2010 has been a wild ride for me…2 weddings in my family….so a new brother and a new sister in law…Jon Plewnarz who married my sister maritess, and Tammy who married my brother Thomas Panlilio.

Lots of preparation…now it is off for me to get some work in towards my goals. I am headed to palm springs this weekend for the september 11th weekend to be at http://www.palmspringscoachesclinic.com

It should be amazing, there will be baseball, softball and basketball coaches at the esmerelda hotel in palm springs and they are professionals from the ncaa, and pro leagues as well as the olympics. I am stoked and feel this is a great way to learn and network with the best coaches in the area who have worked in athletics at the highest level. And a great way to build on my skills as a trainer and athletic performance enhancement specialist through NASM.

I also just got back from the hollyshorts film festival at the director’s guild of america this summer to support the short film of director alex ferrari and my friend, actress Rachel Grant. Their movie is called “red princess blues”. And I made contacts there with other directors, and actors, and stunt coordinators for the future. My intent is to use my skills for music, storytelling and athletics to learn how to create films, and games in the future. I have more contacts in the industry now and that is encouraging. My friend, vincent, works with konami now and has worked with 2ksports in the past. And I know artists, graphic designers, actors, casting people, even some in production, and now a few directors of independent films. I even got called in from a casting agency to come meet them tomorrow after lunch time at christopher gray casting.

I believe things are really falling into place. I have a story idea I want to work on. And am slowly assembling the people I want to talk to and learn from so I can write a story and use it to uplift women, kids, and those in poverty around the globe.

My ministry work at holy name of mary, couples for christ, the padua charitable fund, gawad kalinga, prolife, the archdiocese, ucla alumni association, paa pilipino alumni association, compass young adults, theology on tap, nights of discipleship at the cathedral, catholic underground at st victor, basketballasamission.org, and other groups like one.org, and catholics for the common good have led me to a peaceful place where I feel I really have much work to do to fundraise and help these programs succeed in building up the body of christ.

My prayers in the last 3-6 months have really set a course for me and my team, and I believe we can do wonderful work for god. I wake up each day thankful for the gift of life, and I ask god: what may I do for you today my lord?

Mama Mary, has blessed me, and helped me to center myself. And I know who I need to focus my attention towards. If I do my job of bringing my team towards christ daily, then all else will fall into place. Even when things are dire, and people are suffering or even I am troubled or sick. I know that god will lift me up to do the work he has called us to do as a team.

If we collaborate together as a group, there is nothing that can stop us from all achieving and bringing our talents towards god. I put god first, 2. my family, 3. my career and friends often the same people, 4. strangers that are friends I have not met yet, 5. my enemies that god may work on their hardened hearts, 6. myself so that we remember to put self least among my prayers and my concerns for I do not come for my glory but rather for the glory of god.

We are called to emulate the greatest hero of all. My superhero is jesus christ: the lord of lords who came to serve and not to be served…

I marvel at the religions who still do not know who the messiah is, who salvation is, and what is the meaning of life. So many bibles out there like the king james bible who don’t even have the book of wisdom or maccabbees in it. How can you be a christian without recognizing the value of tithing back to god, or knowing the value of wisdom from the kings in the line of david and solomon.

We all come from the prophetic line of Abraham and Moses, and then the anthropological line of David to St Joseph the caretaker and guardian of a child not even his own: baby Jesus born into the most holy tabernacle of all Mary the Queen of all the angels and saints. And the holy spirit given to us at Pentecost after Easter Sunday and the the crucifixion of Jesus Christ on Calvary.

Still people deny it. They speak of the new age, as if people are gods, or want to be treated as gods. And the old myths before A.D., this new age of multiple gods and people as gods is B.C. the age before Christ. And scientologists who believe that medicine is evil and not to be used, denying the gift of healing and work done by medical research as god helps us to cure the disease and strife on this planet most likely planted by the evil one, Lucifer the devil, or whatever name he goes by these days. The devil and demons are real, there is evil in this world, you have only to look around to know we are not in heaven on earth. There is a battle between good and evil: among the archangel Michael and the forces of good versus Lucifer and his devils and demons who want to take us to hell.

There are 6 billion people on this planet who have yet to understand or know the story of god, and what it means to be with god and leading their family and loved ones to Jesus Christ, God, the Holy Spirit and Mother Mary. Or the opposite and live a life that draws people away from christ and towards Pandemonium and Paradise:Lost.

Where do you want your family to be at the end of your life?
Do you want your temple of the holy spirit to be strong and towards god each day…or do you want the opposite for you and your loved ones? It is your life and your choices that will determine where you end up when you close your eyes for the last time…

Work as if everything depending on your efforts, but take peacefulness in knowing that god will provide everything you need to survive in the meantime. How many people do you want to bring to heaven with you before you die?

Read and pray with your beloved daily.
The best medicine in this world is the Eucharist: god among us in the blood and body at mass, as well as laughter, and love.
You have the ability to do all of these daily: read, pray, go to mass for eucharist, laugh, and love. Do all of these as often as possible and you will see god work miracles in your life and lead you towards gifts of the holy spirit that were always meant for you to be given as god prepares you to be a gift to this world through the prayers that created and brought you into this world.

September 8th, 2010
the anniversary of my parents wedding day…